Tuesday, 27 September, 2022

Duties of parents towards children

Jubayer Ahmad

Children are a great blessing from Allah (SWT). Whatever the gender maybe, either son or daughter having a child is a great mercy of Allah (SWT). It is the Divine Decree of Allah (SWT) that sometimes He gives a person a daughter and sometimes He gives a person a son and sometimes he gives a person son and daughter both. Allah (SWT) says in the Qur’an: ‘To Allah belongs the dominion of the heavens and the earth. He creates what He wills (and plans). He blesses whoever He wills with daughters, and blesses whoever He wills with sons. And He bestows both males and females, and He leaves barren whom He will: for He is full of Knowledge and Power.’ (Sura Shura: 49-50).

The reward of being father and mother is very great in Islam. Being father or mother is a great way of earning Allah’s pleasure. Allah (SWT) says: ‘And know that your wealth and your children are only a test and that with Allah is a great reward.’ (Sura Anfal: 28). As children are a valuable gift from Allah (SWT) it is a characteristic of a true believer to ask Allah (SWT) for a pious child. Prophet Ibrahim (AS) used to ask Allah (SWT) for a pious child. He used to say: ‘O my lord, bless me with righteous offspring.’ (Sura As Saffat : 100). The reward of being pregnant is also very high in Islam. During nine or 10 months of her pregnancy, a mother suffers a lot, having both physical and psychological problems, and all the pain and sickness. All of it is recorded and Allah (SWT) grants her rewards. During her pregnancy a mother gets the reward of observing fasts. According to a Hadith,  ‘Every time a woman becomes pregnant, during the whole period of pregnancy she has the status of one who fasts, one who worships during the night, and one who fights for Allah (SWT) with her life and possessions. And when she is giving birth, Allah (SWT) grants her so much reward that nobody knows its limit because of its greatness. And when she is giving milk to her child, for every suck of the child, Allah (SWT) gives her the reward of freeing a slave from the children of Ismā’īl. During the period of breastfeeding the child is finished. One of the great angels of Allah (SWT) taps her side and says: “Start your deeds afresh, for Allah (SWT) has forgiven all your minor sins.’ Even if a woman dies in childbirth, she will die as a martyr. The Messenger of Allah (Pbuh) said: ‘The woman who dies in pregnancy or childbirth is a martyr.’ (Abu Dawood).

According to Qur’an and Sunnah, children are an Amanah (trust) from Allah (SWT). Therefore, we have certain duties and responsibilities towards them. Responsibilities of parents’ care and upbringing of their children are mentioned in several verses of the Qur’an, as well as in the Hadeeth. Allah almighty says; O you have believed, protect yourselves and your families from a fire whose fuel is people and stones.’ (Sura at Tahrim: 06). It is a matter of sorrow that many of us are not aware of their duties. They think that providing financial support for their child is enough. The fact is, financial support alone doesn’t fulfill a parent’s duty towards their child. It is more important to offer the child comparable care in terms of educational, religious training, and spiritual guidance.

When a Muslim gets a son or a daughter, he/she should thank Allah Almighty for this blessing. Allah (SWT) says:  “And (remember) when your Lord proclaimed, ‘If you are grateful, I will certainly give you more. But if you are ungrateful, surely My punishment is severe.” (Sura Ibrahim: 7).

The second thing to do for a newborn baby is to call Adhan (The Adhn or Azan is a public call to Islamic prayer which is invoked before prayer) in the right ear of the newborn and then Iqamah in the left ear. It is great Sunnah of our beloved prophet. Abu Rafi` (Ra) said, “I saw the Messenger of Allah (Pbuh) give adhan in the ear of al-Hasan, the son of `Ali, when Fatimah gave birth to him.” (Tirmidhi).


The writer is Khatib of Baitush Shafiq Mosque and Principal of Baitul Hikmah Academy, Gazipur