Daughters and sons are the biggest of blessings from Allah. Both daughters and sons are considered as the great bounty of Almighty Allah. But Islam gave much respect and honour to daughters. It is the Decree of Allah (SWT) that sometimes He gives a person a daughter and sometimes gives a son. Allah (SWT) says: “He gives to whom He wills girls, and He gives to whom He wills boys.” (Sura Shura: 49). As Allah (SWT) mentioned daughters before mentioning sons he (SWT) specially identified daughters as being of great honour and nobility.
Prophet Muhammad (PBUH), the last Messenger of Allah showed immense love for daughter. He (PBUH) loved his daughters, took pride in them, and He was always felt blessed to have daughters.It is enough of a dignity for daughters that most of the children of our beloved Prophet (PBUH) were daughters (Zaynab, Ruqayyah, Umm Kalthoom and Fatimah). Fatimah (RA), the younger daughter of the Prophet was the most beloved person to Him (PBUH). The Prophet (PBUH) had so much love for Fatima that He mentioned her as a part of himself. Miswar Ibn Makhrama (RA) narrated that The Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, “Fatima is a part of me, and he who makes her angry, makes me angry.” (Sahih Bukhari).
Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) showed great interest to meet Fatima. It is mentioned in Hadith, whenever Fatima (RA) visited his father, The Messenger of Allah (PBUH) would stand to welcome Fatima, when she entered the room, take her by the hand, kiss her and make her sit where he was sitting. Aishah (RA) narrated, “I have not seen anyone who resembled the Prophet (PBUH) in terms of words, speech and manners, more than Fatimah. When the Prophet saw her coming, he would greet her and then he would stand up for her, kissed her, took her hand and brought her to sit in his place.” (Sahih Bukhari).
It is known to us that the status of daughters were considered as a burden, both physically and financially before Islam. Getting sad and upset at a daughter’s birth was a custom of non-believers (kafirs) during the age of Jahiliyyah (ignorance). Allah (SWT) mentioned in the Holy Quran: “And when the news of (the birth of) a female (child) is brought to any of them, his face became dark, and he is filled with inward grief! (Sura An Nahl: 58). But the Messenger Allah (PBUH), came elevating the status of daughters. He (PBUH) said that a woman whose first child is a daughter is blessed. Wasila Ibn Asqa’ (RA) narrated that The Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, “Amongst the blessing of a woman is that the first born be a girl.” The birth of a daughter brings many blessings for the family. So, when a daughter is born into a family, she should be treated as a great blessing, not a burden.
Being parents of two daughters is a matter of pride according to Islam. Allah (SWT) values a daughter as high that He (SWT) promised paradise for whoever has two daughters. Parents of two daughters will be very close to Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) on the Day of Resurrection,. Anas Ibn Malik (RA) narrated that The Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, ‘He, who brought up two girls properly till they grew up, he and I would come (together) (very closely) on the Day of Resurrection like this (he joined his blessed fingers for explaining the point of nearness between him and that person). (Sahih Muslim). According to Another Hadith, The Messenger of Allah said, “The person who is put to a test because of the birth of the daughters and then he treats them generously, they will become a means of rescue for him from Hell.” (Bukhari, Muslim).
Daughters come with great rewards and blessings. Paradise is definitely guaranteed for the parents who are blessed with three daughters and they accommodate them, show mercy toward them, and support them. Uqbah Ibn Amir (RA) said, I heard the Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, “Whoever has three daughters and is patient towards them, and feeds them, gives them to drink, and clothes from his wealth; they will be a shield for him from the Fire on the Day of Resurrection.’ (Ibn Majah).
Paradise is Mandatory for the parents who give daughters special attention in the process of their upbringing. Mother of Believers Aishah (RA) said, “A woman came to me with two daughters. She was asking (for food). I gave her three dates. She gave a date to each of them and then she took up one date and brought that to her mouth in order to eat that, but her daughters expressed desire to eat it. She then divided the date that she intended to eat between them. This (kind) treatment of her impressed me and I mentioned that which she did to Allah’s Messenger (PBUH). Thereupon he said: Verily Allah has assured Paradise for her, because of (this act) of her, or He has rescued her from Hell-Fire. (Sahih Muslim).
The writer is a national award winning Qari and Khatib of Baitush Shafiq Mosque, near National University, Gazipur.