No human is absent of emotion. Emotions are a central part of the human experience. Sometimes, they may even influence your decisions. Yet, a really bad decision can end your career in an instant. While emotions can guide us, they also can trigger reactive feelings that alter our perspectives and prevent us from understanding what’s really going on at a given moment. As a human being, you may feel worried or frustrated at times, it is normal - but stay focused. Recognize those emotions but then learn how to avoid making rash, reactive decisions that could hinder goal achievement by taxing your time, money or other such precious resources. Here are some tips on how you can avoid your emotions when you need to take important decisions:
Ask yourself questions: Your goal is not to get rid of emotions, it is to develop a higher consciousness so that you can use this powerful force. Zoom out and ask good questions to understand the emotion. What happened the last time you felt this way? How would you feel about your response? How do you want to feel right now? What can you learn about yourself right now?Evaluate the facts: Emotions are feelings and not facts. Though it is important to feel our feelings, it is more important not to let them rule our decisions. For important decisions to be made effectively, implement rational analysis by assessing hard facts, which is a more effective strategy for sound decision-making. Rational analysis can only occur when one is out of a heightened emotionalized state.
Balance your emotions: Immediate emotional reactions are never a good idea. There can be too many variables that are overlooked because of your emotions. Try writing down the problem or question at hand. This will give you just enough time to balance your emotions to make a more effective decision.
Modulate your responses: Emotions give us important clues about our motivators and inhibitors. Do not shut them off. As they bubble up, learn to modulate them and prevent outbursts by not responding for 10 minutes, breathing to restore oxygen intake to your brain, taking a quick walk, or just sleeping with it. Ask yourself why your body and mind are being provoked.
Trust your gut feelings: The best way to make a decision is to do your due diligence to understand the pros and cons of all your options, talk to someone who has dealt with something similar, and finally go with your gut feeling, your intuition. In an instant, your subconscious mind takes all of your knowledge and creates a feeling that will steer you in the right direction.Integrate emotions with reason: Words like passion, commitment, engagement and trust are all emotion-charged. It is not about letting emotions come into play or keeping them at bay. It is about effectively integrating emotions and reason to help guide important decisions. It is this effective integration that leads to winning decisions. Without it, emotions could run amuck.
Be present: Decisions do involve our feelings. At the same time we do not want to be hooked by an imaginary dreaded future or triggered into a choice by our past. Attempting to avoid feelings when decision-making is not the issue and being present when we make them is what counts.