Friedrich Nietzsche says, “In family life, love is the oil that eases friction, the cement that binds closer together, and the music that brings harmony.” Desmond Tutu goes one step farther and regards family to be a bequest from the almighty Creator. He states, “You do not choose your family. They are God’s gift to you, as you are to them.” To George Bernard Shaw, “A happy family is but an earlier heaven.” Winston Churchill does not fail to highlight the significance of family as he holds, “There is no doubt that it is around the family and the home that all the greatest virtues… are created, strengthened and maintained.” These are just a few of the scores of precious notions great people of the world felt and the people of the world have been feeling about the importance of strong family bond.
As human we have many relationships, obligations, sorrows, happiness, achievements and frustration. Like the changing colour of the clouds in the sky we face many ups and downs in our relations with humans and society. In the web of human life, the only bondage what we cannot deny is family bondage. Strong family tie is one of the most adorable and admirable ties for any individual. There are many reasons of this urgency of family bondage.We learn values, life lessons, social orders, religion, culture, everyday activities, etiquette and manners from family. Moreover, for our psychological well being and economic needs we depend on family. Now-a-days, the outward flame of modernisation has destroyed our inner feelings, peace of mind, emotions and respect for norms, culture and relations. Declining bondage of family may be one of the main reasons behind it. Living in a technology saturated environment, we spend more of our pastime with mass media like face book, Twitter, WhatsApp, etc. and much less with family members. Technology is modernising us but at the same time taking us away from sweet family pleasures.
Family is a power house. Only family can provide us the necessary shelter at our bad times. For an unemployed youth family should be a safe haven. The whole world may jeer at him or her but a family should not.
Family is like a strong unseen thread building up a community. Each family should strengthen its power to hold and embrace each of its members equally. A community provides lessons for adults through religious, social and professional organisations, mass media and in institutions like schools, colleges and universities, whereas a family can boost up personality prior to any institutional knowledge and feedback.
A family is important for representing relatives and inheritance to the younger generation. Parents or older generation should not hide the laborious but glorious deeds of their old time to the younger generation. There may be some motivating lessons to fire the light of hope and aspirations amidst the tender souls. Besides, these lessons may engender immaculate homage in them to the superiors in the family. Accordingly, this will help to sustain our golden old values.
Patriotism is a great virtue. We learn this virtue from family. One should not demean one’s own country’s glory to younger generation. Likewise, there exist so many desired attributes that a family has in store to adorn human life with auspicious beauty to disseminate the aura of love and compassion to the people and beings around.
As a result, the love and care practised in the family get spread in the community and in the end to the nation as a whole only to make the entire world a living heaven. Such is the majestic power of family bond.
The writer is Director and Associate Professor (English), Institute of Modern Languages of Jagannath University, Bangladesh.