Friday, 2 December, 2022
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Male harassment by in-laws

It might wonder people how a man can be harassed and that too by his in-laws. A woman is harassed by her in-laws has become very acceptable and common thing in Asian Culture. But, if a man is harassed physically or mentally by his family or in-laws is an unbelievable thing for the society. And it’s not fair if harassment only happens by physically, mental harassment needs justice too. People may say and follow the trend of gender neutral, but when it comes to harassment and justice, some fake feminists protest for their own rights and try to defame males. 

In Bangladesh, women are much more likely than men to experience domestic abuse, but an increasing percentage of men are also experiencing abuse. According to BMRF (Bangladesh Men’s Right Foundation), “Around 80% of married men in Bangladesh have faced mental abuse by their spouses.” “We have got thousands of messages from men who have been abused mentally and physically by their spouses and their relatives. But they are afraid to talk or seek legal help about it as our society regards a man as a weak person when he admits such a thing. They laugh at male victims,” Azad said who is a member of BMRF. 

The best example would be the recent gender neutral case: Jhonny Depp and Amber Heard divorce. Jhonny Depp has broken the misconception about men cannot be harassed. There is some sort of parents who accuse their son-in-law in the matters of domestic violence or defaming wife which is not true in everyone’s case.  This society is not ready to accept the fact that men are also a victim of mental harassment by their in-laws. In every country, there are laws for women and children, but is it too hard to make a law for abuse against men? If we have laws for domestic violence for women and child abuse, we should have for men too. There is hardly any law for male harassment. The situation is even worse when there is no such law in Bangladesh for male harassment by in-laws. Men are frequently perceived as the offenders, not the victims, of such acts. In contemporary society, domestic violence is primarily committed by men. They might, however, also become victims in many situations. There is no specific research or data available on the frequency of domestic violence against men in the nation. In addition to the fact that they are male, there may be additional factors that contribute to this abuse.

Additionally, there is not a single non-governmental organisation (NGO) that addresses the problem or maintains a database to protect men’s rights. The number of men who are harassed by women or in-laws is therefore never known. Men typically report domestic violence in secret out of fear of appearing weak or shameful in front of others. Males who share their sorrow in a society that is ruled by men are considered disgraceful in our patriarchal culture. The worry of coming out as “feminine” or insufficiently “manly” is persistent enough. A man eventually becomes impacted by this toxic masculinity, which causes him to begin living in distress. Therefore, we should take the necessary steps to prevent these mental pains.

 

Nashita Tasneem, an intern at the Daily Sun