A Big Ego: Is It Harmful Or Beneficial?

Ruhee Mahmood

26 March, 2020 12:00 AM printer

A Big Ego: Is It Harmful Or Beneficial?

We all are the hero of our own stories. As we want to be smarter, better, bigger and stronger than others, this makes us compete with everyone else in our day-to-day life. But this tendency is not healthy for us, at least not when we do it excessively. And when we think we are more important than others, that is where our ego strikes in. And when our ego gets bigger than us, we lose control of ourselves. Though we need ego to maintain our self-respect, at the same time we have to be careful about the fact that ego should not overpower our very own self. We have to teach our ego to loosen its grip so that we can dominate our ego.

Well, there is a fine line between a healthy ego and a big ego, and psychology says a big ego is often a weak ego. And this big ego is our enemy. Big ego creates a sense of unhealthy belief in our own importance and people having a big ego often cannot see the difference between the right and the wrong. Let’s have a closer look.

The bigger the ego, the more it is hard to fall and this makes us blind for self love and self importance. Having a big ego makes us too proud of ourselves that we often don’t want to accept the criticism which comes from other people and those are actually beneficial for us. It keeps us from reality and we don't even want to hear what others think of us. Big ego makes us think that we deserve everything and we deserve the best, no matter whether we put much efforts into that or not. It dominates us so strongly that we cannot hear what others have to say over the sound of how awesome we are because when driven by big ego, it makes us think so. We often don’t realize how dangerous this may turn out to be in the long run, and we often avoid this issue. This often leads us to external validation as we need others to prove ourselves because of the low self-esteem.

Moreover a person with a big ego is always competitive and is never emotionally stable. They struggle with their own self. As they always compete with other, they often lose their own personality. They focus on how to be better than others rather than creating a new whole dimension which can represent him or her.

Again big ego is often related to low self-esteem and it creates an unrealistic expectation. For example, a person having a big ego expects that he or she will win in every aspect of their life, with or without any effort. And when that doesn’t happen, they start to put the blame on others or the situation.

To conclude, we have to learn that everything cannot be perfect and it is okay to accept the way it is. We cannot control everything and everything is not in our own hands. Rather than controlling the situation or others, we should focus on controlling ourselves and developing a healthy ego. Healthy ego helps us to learn from our mistakes and it increases our strength and confidence to handle any triggered situation driven by big ego. Healthy ego also helps us to cope up with discomfort regulated by opposed feelings. It helps us to get out of our comfort zone and struggle with reality to move forward in life as well.