We are human beings, and it is completely normal to be scared of something in life. But have we ever questioned ourselves --- why are we scared of certain things? It can be anything starting from fear of betrayal to fear of rejection. But the problem arises when we hold on to that fear and make it an undeniable part of our lives. Consequently it turns into a phobia in the long run.
If you search, you will find thousands of scientific facts about fear and methods to overcome it available on Google. But we need to generalize the matter and make it easy for the people who are constantly struggling in their day-to-day lives. I am no psychologist. But I can take you down to the path where you may find an answer you always wanted to know.Now think about something that bothers you and makes you feel scared. For example – consider the ghost from your grandma’s stories. A crippled face, sharp bloody jaws, long dirty nails, big red eyes, skeletons, white filthy clothed or naked green monsters perhaps, under your bed, standing behind you or might even appear while you were doing shampoo closing your eyes. All these features belong to an imaginary monster that we are not familiar with. Because those were not some features we see every day, and that’s why we call it abnormality in our mind --- something unusual that causes fear in our head. Similarly, we can all relate to some situations we never want to face out of fear.
Well, unfamiliarity is one of the reasons for such kind of fear. Apart from it, there is another reason that causes fear --- getting pre-occupied with the outcomes. We often predict the results of our decisions. That is, in fact, necessary. But when we over-think, it creates lack of confidence. Eventually we get scared.
So, how will we overcome this problem? Don’t panic --- relax and take a few deep breaths. Then break down the situation. Think about reasons. If your fear is about a dead body, simply think that it is lifeless, and it cannot harm you because it cannot move. Again if your fear is about betrayal, remember that people betray when they feel insecure.
To conclude, building a strong personality, maintaining basic manners, following ethics and most importantly being honest will make you fearless and confident. It’s not possible to achieve all these in one day. Take your time and never give up.
(The writer is an undergrad student at BRAC University.)