Having a good friend is always a matter of great significance. All of us want some good friends around us who will stand by us in times of necessity. Good friendships provide strength, happiness, and meaning in ways that social media cannot do. But we hardly want to see the other side of the coin: how good we are as a friend. We get so used to our friends that we become insensitive to the things we say and do. Sometimes our actions and words hurt others’ emotions but we do not consider it as a problem at all. Then eventually we are not even conscious of how horrible we are as a friend. But all true friendships are built on mutual trust and support, so whether you are looking to make new, quality friendships or improve your existing ones, there are things you can do to be a good friend to others. Thus it is not actually easy to be a good friend. There are some certain qualities that make someone a good friend.
Listen to them: Try to understand a situation from your friend’s point of view. Ask questions to get a sense of the problem or issue, but the main thing is to listen to them. You need not to know all the answers, and do not assume that your friend wants advice. Most of the times people need more than good advice, rather they need someone to listen to them as they talk through their feelings. Ask them what’s going on in their life and how they feel.Be real: People are turned off by those who are constantly trying to be someone they are not. We are most comfortable around others who are comfortable in their own skin. So just be yourself. Even though you are not perfect, the way you handle your strengths and faults with humility and confidence will give other people permission to be real and feel relaxed with you as well.
Be honest: Keep your promises. Be reliable. Nobody wants to have friendship with someone who lies. And lies always have a way of coming to the light. Also, friends will say the truth to one another, even when it is hard. According to King Solomon, faithful are the wounds of a friend, but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful.
Make time for your friend: Time is one of the greatest gifts we possess. When we share extra time with a friend, we are giving back to them. No friendship can develop overnight. It takes time. A real friend will take that time.
Keep their secrets: Prove yourself to be a trustworthy person who will guard their secrets with your life. A good way to prove you are trustworthy is to be free to share some of your own secrets with your friend. If your friend tells you something in confidence, keep it and do not talk about it with anyone else, just as you would expect your friend to do for you. Do not discuss your friend behind his or her back, and do not spread rumors about them.
Encourage your friend: Everyone needs encouragement. Find specific ways to encourage your friend. Even in the depths of their struggles, show them what you see to be special about them and be willing to pick them up when they are depressed or feel like life is pressing in on them from all sides.
Be loyal to your friend: Be loyal to your true friends and be prepared to defend them if your new friends, or people you barely know, start gossiping about them. This is unconditional acceptance, even when your friend makes a mistake or really screws up. Be there when they are experiencing their highest highs and their lowest lows. Laugh with them, cry with them and do not just talk about always being there. Prove it in your everyday life!Be willing to work through conflict: Every relationship will hit a speed bump. Show your friend you are willing to work through the difficult times of misunderstandings. Sometimes friendships grow stronger through the difficult times. Do not give up on your friend just because you are having difficulties.
Keep in touch: Life goes on and everyone has their own thing to do. It takes effort, especially when there is a lot of physical distance, to maintain a good friendship. It is a relationship that takes both sides to work.