The Secret Of Self-Respect

Nusrat Jahan Pritom

26 August, 2019 12:00 AM printer

The Secret Of Self-Respect

Self-respect is the root of all the positive traits you want in your life. Self-respect is from where self-confidence stems. A person with a high sense of self-esteem and self-respect is not one easy to mess with.

They are positive, polite, confident and patient. All these are also precursors for success.

On the other hand, a person with low self-respect often lacks motivation and lives in anxiety. They find it hard to set their foot down when others are trenching on their lands. They might also not possess enough conscience at times for which reason doing anything immoral or untowardly is easy for them. This also means later they usually face the consequences of their actions. Some people confuse self-respect with arrogance whereas these two are very different things. Arrogance is considering oneself superior to others and behaving in such a way as well. Self-respect is the act of believing one is no less than others. To live a happy and blessed life, self-respect is actually very important. The good news is that self-respect can be cultivated over time with the right outlook and practice. If you find it hard to stand up for yourself against some toxic people or if you are feeling low for some time, here are some things to give you a boost:

Teach others how to treat you

People with self-respect may be polite but they are not the sort you would want to mess up with. In fact, we teach others how to treat us rather than wait for their approval or mood to decide it. So the next time you say ‘yes’ to someone when you really want to say ‘no’, be aware that you may be teaching that person that it’s okay to take you for granted and treat you poorly. The next time you are spoken to in a disrespectful manner and you choose to accept that by staying silent rather than standing up for yourself and speaking your truth, see if you can remind yourself that you can indeed make another choice and teach that person to treat you differently.


Take control of yourself

People with self-respect are usually firm in resolutions and do not fall for peer pressure. It is not easy to make them do anything against their will. Remember, you alone are in total control of your life and how you feel. Those who bully you or try to bother you do it for their own poor mentality. No matter how good or how close a person is, don’t let others dictate you how you should live your life or how you should feel. Eleanor Roosevelt once said, “Nobody can make you feel bad without your permission.”


Leave it to karma

Yogi and mystic Sadhguru Jaggi Vasudev once said, “No matter what happens, one has to face the consequences of his actions.” Our religion also teaches us the same thing. Those who do bad will not only face punishment in life after death but also in this life. However, do not allow injustice to happen to yourself. If someone is doing or attempting to do, say or behave unjustly to you, defend yourself. Otherwise, let go of the hate, sadness or anxiety. Rather focus on building yourself up and cutting off ties from bad company.


Please yourself, not others

You need to ask yourself- do you need other people’s approval to do what you want or do you want to do what contents your heart? Sometimes in trying to please others, we lose our own gravity. The sad part is nobody then comes to save us from falling. Choose yourself before others and it will make it easier for you to build happy relationships. Around us all there are ‘emotional vampires’ who may be in the disguise of friends, family or well wishers. Do not let their selfish goals get to you.