Ways To Build Self-Confidence

Joynul Abedin

22 August, 2019 12:00 AM printer

Ways To Build Self-Confidence

Confidence is one of the major aspects that can make you happy in your everyday life. Although different people can explain the word ‘confidence’ in different way, actually it simply means having faith in your ability. Confidence is an attribute that most of the people would like to possess. But it is not something that can be learned like a set of rules, rather it is a state of mind which can be improved with the help of positive thinking, practice, training, knowledge and interaction with people. Confidence actually comes from feelings of well-being, acceptance of your body and mind and belief in your own ability, skills and experience. Our confidence to perform roles and tasks and deal with situations can increase and decrease, and some days we may feel more confident than others. So here we have put together some tips that can help you to be more confident:


Be positive

Being positive is the basic requirement to be confident. Stay positive, even if you are not feeling it quite yet. Put some positive enthusiasm into your interactions with others. Stop focusing on the problems in your life and instead begin to focus on solutions and making positive changes. Though this is a tough task, still you have to do it. And to do so, get away from those individuals who put you down and shred your confidence. Even a temporary break from those persons can make a huge difference and help you make strides towards more confidence. The basic rules of positive thinking are to highlight your strengths and successes, and learn from your weaknesses and mistakes.


Set goals and achieve

Confidence is built on accomplishment. If you achieve small and big goals, you are going to feel much better about yourself. Begin with day-to-day goals, then think in a bigger scale. If you accomplish the goals you set for every day, you will be able to meet weekly and monthly goals. If you believe that you can achieve something, you are likely to work hard to make sure you do. Keep in mind that progress is incremental, and big changes do not happen overnight. You are going to feel like you can take a big project, and set an ambitious goal because you believe you can meet it. Set a goal for yourself, and go for it.


Follow a role model

To help yourself, find out somebody whom you see regularly:  a colleague, a family member or a friend with a lot of self-confidence and follow him/her. Observe them and notice how they behave when they are being confident. How do they move, how do they speak, what do they say and when? How do they behave when faced with a problem or mistake? How do they interact with other people and how do others react to them? It will be more helpful for you to talk to them to learn more about how they think and what makes them tick. Speaking to those people will surely help you to feel more confident.



Gaining experience and taking the first step can, however, be very difficult. Often the thought of starting something new is worse than actually doing it. This is where preparation, learning and thinking positively can help. Learning and gaining knowledge can sometimes make us feel less confident about our abilities to perform roles and tasks, and when this happens we need to combine our knowledge with experience. By doing something we have learned a lot about we put theory to practice which develops confidence and adds to the learning and comprehension. 


Avoid arrogance

Arrogance is detrimental to interpersonal relationships. As your confidence grows and you become successful, avoid feeling superior to others. Remember - nobody is perfect and there is always more that you can learn. Celebrate your strengths and successes, and recognize your weaknesses and failures. Give others credit for their work - use compliments and praise sincerely. Be courteous and polite, show an interest in what others are doing, ask questions and get involved.