Suicide is never a solution | 2018-11-18

Suicide is never a solution

18 November, 2018 12:00 AM printer

Suicide is never a solution

Suicide can never be the solution of everything. It’s crazy to destroy own life. There are a lot of solutions in the world. Nothing is permanent in this world. People can fall in danger, crisis, be affected with diseases and so on. We need to struggle to overcome these problems. Life is so short but we have so many responsibilities. There are so many people who claim good things from us. Our parents take care of us from our childhood. They have right to get something good from us too. Our siblings, neighbours, relatives, as well as our well wishers are looking at us to see good deeds from us for our society. Nevertheless, some of us choose illegal way to die. It’s really a big crime. It’s also the greatest sin according to religion. There are a lot of people in the hospitals who are praying to the Creator to stay in this world and struggling against death. We should learn from them.

There may be many reasons for committing suicide. Most of the people commit suicide due to depression and economic problem, as we know from psychologists. Moreover, people commit suicide for a lot of other reasons too. A psychologist expressed the reasons of attempting suicide from the aspect of his own experience.

He says, in general, people try to kill themselves for six reasons:

1. They are depressed. This is without question the most common reason people commit suicide. Severe depression is always accompanied by a pervasive sense of suffering as well as the belief that escape from it is hopeless. The pain of existence often becomes too much for severely depressed people to bear. The state of depression warps their thinking, allowing ideas like “Everyone would be better off without me” to make rational sense. They shouldn’t be blamed for falling prey to such distorted thoughts any more than a heart patient should be blamed for experiencing chest pain: it’s simply the nature of their disease. Because depression, as we all know, is almost always treatable, we should all seek to recognise its presence in our close friends and loved ones. Often people suffer with it silently, planning suicide without anyone ever knowing. Despite making both parties uncomfortable, inquiring directly about suicidal thoughts in my experience, almost always yields an honest response. If you suspect someone might be depressed, don’t allow your tendency to deny the possibility of suicidal idea prevent you from asking about it.

2. They’re psychotic. Malevolent inner voices often command self-destruction for unintelligible reasons. Psychosis is much harder to mask than depression, and is arguably even more tragic. The worldwide incidence of schizophrenia is 1 per cent and often strikes otherwise healthy, high-performing individuals, whose lives, though manageable with medication, never fulfil their original promise. Schizophrenics are just as likely to talk freely about the voices commanding them to kill themselves as not, and also, in my experience, give honest answers about thoughts of suicide when asked directly. Psychosis, too, is treatable, and usually must be treated for a schizophrenic to be able to function at all. Untreated or poorly treated psychosis almost always requires hospital admission to a locked ward until the voices lose their commanding power.

3. They’re impulsive. Often related to drugs and alcohol, some people become maudlin and impulsively attempt to end their own lives. Once sobered and calmed, these people usually feel emphatically ashamed. The remorse is often genuine, but whether or not they’ll ever attempt suicide again is unpredictable. They may try it again the very next time they become drunk or high, or never again in their lifetime. Hospital admission is therefore not usually indicated. Substance abuse and the underlying reasons for it are generally a greater concern in these people and should be addressed as aggressively as possible.

4. They’re crying out for help, and don’t know how else to get it. These people don’t usually want to die but do want to alert those around them that something is seriously wrong. They often don’t believe they will die, frequently choosing methods they don‘t think can kill them in order to strike out at someone who’s hurt them, but they are sometimes tragically misinformed. The prototypical example of this is a young teenage girl suffering genuine angst because of a relationship, either with a friend, boyfriend, or parent, who swallows a bottle of Tylenol, not realising that in high enough doses Tylenol causes irreversible liver damage. I’ve watched more than one teenager die a horrible death in an ICU days after such ingestion, when remorse has already cured them of their desire to die and their true goal of alerting those close to them of their distress has been achieved.

5. They have a philosophical desire to die. The decision to commit suicide for some is based on a reasoned decision, often motivated by the presence of a painful terminal illness from which little to no hope of reprieve exists. These people aren’t depressed, psychotic, maudlin, or crying out for help. They’re trying to take control of their destiny and alleviate their own suffering, which they feel can only be done in death. They often look at their choice to commit suicide as a way to shorten a

dying that will happen, regardless. In my personal view, if such people are evaluated by a qualified professional.

6. They’ve made a mistake. This is a recent, tragic phenomenon in which typically young people flirt with oxygen deprivation for the high it brings and simply go too far. The only defence against this, it seems to me, is education.

We should raise consciousness in our society to prevent this crucial matter. Because of suicide, not only a human dies, but also die a lot of dreams of a lot people.


Tufayel Ahmad, Student, Rajshahi University