Raised In A Single-Parent Household

Nusrat Jahan Pritom

4 November, 2019 12:00 AM printer

Raised In A Single-Parent Household

Death, divorce or mutual separations could be the reasons why a family falls apart.

While this is a tremendous decision for the couple, it also has a profound effect on the child or children. Some children raised in a broken family tend to become lethargic and detached from others. It is also not uncommon for such kids to do bad at school temporarily or to experience excessive mood swings. A family does not only create a home. It is a home per se. Having a family is like having an anchor. It is both your safety as well as your security. If for any reason, such a split does occur, remember to put in extra attention to your as well as your children’s mental and emotional well-being. Physical wounds are easily noticeable but mental scars are difficult to spot. However, a good approach can surely make this journey much more tolerable and even beautiful. Even if a family splits apart, it should never fall apart. Here are some things you should be doing if you were raised or are being raised by only a father or a mother.


Learn to rely on yourself

Your mother and father will not always be available to you. Remind yourself that it is okay. At the end of the day, they are busy doing their work at office or cooking in the kitchen so that you can have a decent meal! In other words, whatever they are doing it is only for you. If you develop a strong personality, build confidence and learn to rely on yourself, you will surely be a happier and more successful person in the future. Do the little choirs around the house yourself whether it be pressing your clothes, organizing your book shelf or cleaning your room. Also begin taking a few decisions for yourself, regardless of whether you are a teenager or an 8-year-old. For example, tell yourself that you will watch television or play games only for an hour and then commit yourself the next hour to studying. These are normally decisions parents take for their young ones. However, when you begin to take such decisions yourself, you will find more control in your life and also be able to exercise flexibility.


Be emotional intelligently

EQ is now as important a topic as IQ. Only being intelligent or sensitive is not enough. We need to be emotionally intelligent in our relationships, in our workplaces and also with ourselves. The ability to understand your emotions and those of others while effectively regulating the former in tandem is important. This set of skills can be a serious game-changer in virtually every part of your life. Listen to others, empathize, learn to accept criticism, cater to both your as well as others’ emotional needs, be less dependent on others and more on yourself, be patient and also learn to stand up for yourself when you need to. These are a few things that can help prevent bigger, traumatic problems in your life.


Develop a routine

Your routine is what states where your life is going. If you are an early sleeper, an early riser and a meticulous worker, your life is going in the right direction. Make sure to keep breaks. Changes in routine are not bad but make sure it is not too often. You could keep the weekends to skip the routine life and spend more time with your other parent.