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What To Follow In A Relationship

Nusrat Jahan Pritom

13 February, 2019 12:00 AM printer

What To Follow In A Relationship

Valentine’s Day nowadays has become equivalent to a very twisted meaning. It’s all about celebrating a commercial day that benefits gift shops, hotels and restaurants. It has also spread a very perverse culture in Bangladesh of one-night dating. However, when it started out, the day meant something very different. While nobody is exactly sure of how the day began, since historians disagree on a number of things associated with the day, most unanimously credit a man named Valentine for the day. One legend contends that Valentine was a priest who served during the third century in Rome. When Emperor Claudius II decided that single men made better soldiers than those with wives and families, he outlawed marriage for young men. Valentine believed in love and when his actions were discovered, Claudius ordered that he be put to death.

So when we say, “Be my Valentine,” what we really mean is that we, the couple, are ready to sacrifice our lives for the sake of the other. However, it should have never meant short time dating with the objective of a temporary relationship. Many young people fall in love a few days or at best a month prior to Valentine ’s Day, celebrate it and eventually break up. Some don’t even wait for months but a few days after Febraury 14 is considered the prime time for splitting up. All these are happening because commercial perspectives of love are being more evaluated than genuine love.

While love or relationship should not have any rules, there are still some things that you can do to make sure you find love, not lust. While lust is temporary, love is eternal. Being kind and respectful to the feelings and actions of one another is possibly the one and only rule in a relationship.

A relationship should not be like chains. It should accept you as you are, cherish the passions you have and also give you flexibility to improve and grow. There are dominating women just like there are dominating men. Both try to be the boss in a relationship ultimately creating a hierarchy, not a team. It’s difficult to find peace in such a relationship because one will end up always suffocating under the other’s demands.

The reason kindness is a rule in a relationship is because no matter how much freedom we enjoy, we should never say or do anything that hurts the other person. If some problem or misunderstanding had developed, it is best to try not to repeat it and for the other person to try to forgive and forget it. Quarrels are normal but it is best to be respectful of each other’s feelings all the time and to resolve any issues amicably.

Love is a very beautiful feeling and everyone should experience it at least once in their lives. Those who have found love and could not cherish it properly are definitely the unlucky ones. A few mistakes and ego can ruin it all. We must rise higher than these and embrace love and try to become the best versions of ourselves.


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