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Bridesmaid spends 15 hours escaping wedding

BBC     28th August, 2018 10:35:08 printer

Bridesmaid spends 15 hours escaping wedding

 

Attending a big wedding can be a tricky experience: What do you wear? Who do you need to avoid?

 

When you're agoraphobic and due to be your best mate's bridesmaid in a remote part of Scotland, those are the least of your worries.

 

You might assume that agoraphobia simply means being stuck in your house, fearful of the outside world.

 

However, it's actually much weirder than that. Aged 29, I developed a very specific form - the absolute fear of sleeping overnight anywhere other than in three specific houses.

 

And all of those were a long way from Scotland.

 

The weird thing is, I previously had a job that involved staying in different hotels every week. I was the kind of person who didn't buy shower gel because I had so many miniatures stashed away.

 

My phobia was hard to explain, so I usually made up excuses about why I couldn't stay somewhere and developed an encyclopaedic knowledge of transport timetables so I could get home the moment I felt the fear.

 

Attending a big wedding can be a tricky experience: What do you wear? Who do you need to avoid?

 

When you're agoraphobic and due to be your best mate's bridesmaid in a remote part of Scotland, those are the least of your worries.

 

You might assume that agoraphobia simply means being stuck in your house, fearful of the outside world.

 

However, it's actually much weirder than that. Aged 29, I developed a very specific form - the absolute fear of sleeping overnight anywhere other than in three specific houses.

 

And all of those were a long way from Scotland.

 

The weird thing is, I previously had a job that involved staying in different hotels every week. I was the kind of person who didn't buy shower gel because I had so many miniatures stashed away.

 

My phobia was hard to explain, so I usually made up excuses about why I couldn't stay somewhere and developed an encyclopaedic knowledge of transport timetables so I could get home the moment I felt the fear.

 

But then it became a full-on white wedding. And it moved to a castle in rural Perthshire.

 

Emma tried to convince me that I could stay in a lovely little cottage in the grounds, or perhaps a nearby hotel. But I couldn't envisage a version of either that didn't involve endless hours of total fear.

 

So, I set about planning my escape from this wedding down to the tiniest detail.

 

The first challenge was how to get there for 11:00 to set up, get ready, and assist the bride-to-be.

 

I worked out that if I got a flight from Luton at 05:00, a train to Perth, and a 30-minute taxi ride, this was feasible. Of course the night before, while the rest of the wedding party enjoyed a chilled out night at the castle, I failed to sleep for fear of missing my alarm.

 

When I finally arrived, I was delirious with tiredness and for the next few hours, all I needed to do was focus on getting my eyeliner straight, putting the bride in her dress and getting through the ceremony. The thought that six hours later I would leave to get an overnight coach from Dundee soothed me significantly.


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