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Overcoming Your Fear

“I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.” – Nelson Mandela

Fatema Afroz Subha     10 November, 2017 12:00 AM printer

Overcoming Your Fear

Suppose, you are walking down the road at night and you see someone is following you constantly. How would you feel? Or maybe, you know you are going to fail in one subject and the next day is the result day and you have to bring your parents to school, how would you feel then? You may experience an unpleasant feeling, which may cause you physical trauma, for example - a faster heartbeat, rapid breathing and an increase in blood pressure. Well this is what fear does to us. Fear is an abiding part of our lives and we all wish it was not there so that we could live a peaceful life. So, what is fear exactly? How does it occur? Who creates it? When does it happen and how to overcome it? A lot of questions come to our mind regarding fear. Fear can break you and make you weak or you can climb above it and conquer your fears. The choice is up to you.

Fear is a like a parasite between you and your goal. It is just a feeling, which keeps you away from success and discourages you from accepting challenges. According to Psychology Today, “Fear is an emotional response induced by a perceived threat, which causes a change in brain and organ function, as well as in behavior. Fear can lead us to hide, to run away, or to freeze in our shoes. Fear may arise from a confrontation or from avoiding a threat, or it may come in the form of a discovery.” In this world, fear asserts different kinds of phobias too. For example, fear of failure (Atychiphobia), fear of snakes (Ophidiophobia), fear of suffocation (Claustrophobia) and many more.

Since the cause of fear is unknown, it is sometimes difficult to understand how it occurs. We only feel it when the source of fear is present, or in some cases, something good is absent (such as the absence of light). There is nobody individually responsible to create fear. Sometimes it can be the society, family, friends or maybe the person himself. As it has been said that fear is a mere feeling, therefore it depends on us whether we choose to be afraid of something or not. There might be many unpleasant incidents and failures that cause fear. For example, I have acrophobia which is the fear of heights. When I was a kid I jumped from a cupboard and hurt myself and it was probably then that I developed a fear for heights. Fear can also bring collateral damages that may hurt your self esteem or destroy you from within. I have heard from many parents who lock up their child in bathrooms as punishment with lights off. As a matter of fact, they might think that this could be a possible solution for them but little do they know that it can also create an unknown trauma and fear later in their future.   

It is also important to remember that fear is a state of mind that keeps you away from being successful. You have to understand the fact that you may not overcome your fears overnight. It will take time and patience. That’s totally alright. Don’t push yourself too hard and don’t go beyond your limits. In order to overcome your fear, you have to keep in mind that failure is a part of our lives and we all failed at least once in our lives or maybe many times. But this is not a sign of weakness. The more you’ll try, the stronger you will get. Confidence will always show you the way. According to an article published in Huffington Post, “Fear produces stagnancy because it causes us to battle against ourselves. The rational part of our brain wars against our agitated emotions, and the struggle for the stronger of the two causes great stress within us. We worry that our worst fears may come true. And exactly that which we fear, ironically, we bring to life. Conquering our fears begins with the acknowledgment that oftentimes fear is a decision, not an inherent trait or needed component of life.”

So, if you are facing your fear and you body is telling you not to run away, then don’t give in. Take a deep breath. Choose your weapon that can help you win, for example, by boosting self-confidence, erasing negative imprints and awakening the power to face the truth. Accepting failure is also important. However, if you still feel like you are suffering, if you feel de-motivated and powerless, then remember one thing that you can always ask for help, there are people who love you and you are not alone.